RESOURCES
Books, videos and other resources listed on this page are among many I share with my clients. These reflect a variety of perspectives on a wide array of personal growth and relationship issues for reference only. The content on this page or within these resources is not intended to be construed as advice but offered as a curated resource for further exploration.
Videos
The School of Life YouTube Channel - Alain de Botton
- Criticism When You've Had a Bad Childhood
- How to be a Friend to Yourself
- How to Choose a Partner Wisely
- How to Forgive
- How to Remain Calm with People
- Why Tiny Things About our Partners Drive us Mad
- Interview with Alain de Botton "On Being" NPR
- Being a Good Listener
- Be the Change You Want to See
- Eastern Philosophy – The Buddha
- Emotional Translation
- Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)
- Freud on: Sublimation
- Good Enough is Good Enough
- Higher Consciousness
- Honest Communication
- The Horrors of Children
- How Can We Grow Emotionally?
- How Best to Manage Your Moods
- How a Messed Up Childhood Affects You in Adulthood
- How Not to be Angry All the Time
- How Not to be Defensive in Relationships
- How Not to Rant
- How Our Childhoods Affect Our Adult Life
- How Romantic Attachment Works
- How the Right Words Help Us to Feel the Right Things
- How to Argue With Our Partner
- How to Be a Friend to Yourself
- How to Be a Good Listener
- How to Be a Man
- How to Be Selfish
- How to Become a Better Person
- How to Choose a Partner Wisely
- How to Complain
- How to Cope with an Avoidant Partner
- How to Find Meaningful Work
- How to Forgive
- How to Get Angry a Lot
- How to Get Over Rejection
- How to Get Over Someone
- How to Help Those We Love
- How to Keep Growing Up
- How to Overcome Trauma
- How to Process Your Emotions
- How to Remain Calm With People
- How to Remain Emotionally Mature in a Crisis
- How to Test Your Emotional Maturity
- How We Lie to Ourselves
- Hypervigilance and How to Overcome It
- An Instruction Manual to Oneself
- Knowing Ourselves Intellectually vs Knowing Ourselves Emotionally
- The Meaning of Life
- On Being Hated
- On Being Out of Touch With One’s Feelings
- On Feeling Depressed
- Overcoming Childhood
- Panic Attacks
- Pessimism for Lovers
- Philosophical Meditation
- Should We Laugh or Should We Cry?
- The Challenges of the Anxious-Avoidant Relationship
- The Challenge of Being Close
- The Dangers of Loving or Hating Too Much
- The Eight Rules of the School of Life
- The Hardest Person in the World to Break Up With
- The Importance of Vulnerability
- The One Subject You Really Need to Study: Your Own Childhood
- The Problem With Perfectionism
- The Purpose of Friendship
- The Sanity of Madnes
- The Course of Love - Alain de Botton
- The Weakness of Strength
- Twenty Signs That You are Emotionally Mature
- What is An Emotionally-Healthy Childhood?
- What is Narcissism?
- What is Your Attachment Style?
- What It’s Like Inside Our Minds
- Why Avoidant and Anxious Partners Find it Hard to Split Up
- Why Are We So Easily Triggered?
- Why Humanity Destroyed Itself
- Why Introspection Matters
- Why Love is Never As Nice As It Should Be
- Why None of Us Can Escape Catastrophe
- Why Our Partners Drive Us Mad
- Why Socrates Hated Democracy
- Why Tiny Things About Our Partners Drive Us Mad
- Why Touch Means So Much in Love
- Why We Are All Addicts- Why We’re All So Anxious
- Why We Are Mean to Those We Love
- Why We Eat Too Much
- Why We Only Learn What We Repeat
- Why We Pick Difficult Partners
- Why We Should Treat Our Partners Like Small Children
- Why We Sulk and How Not To
- Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person
- Why You Shouldn’t Trust Your Feelings
- Wisdom
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Articles / Videos
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- The 5 Qualities of Emotionally Mature People - Niklas Goke
- Alain de Botton on What Makes a Good Communicator and the Difficult Art of Listening in Intimate Relationships - Maria Popova
- Psychotherapy (Defenses) - Anna Freud
- Psychotherapy (Relationships) – John Bowlby
- Psychotherapy (Ambivalence) – Melanie Klein
- Psychotherapy (Parenting) – Donald Winnicott
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Books
5 Things We Cannot Change & the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them – David Richo
7 Principles for Making Marriage Work - John Gottman
Barking Up the Wrong Tree – Eric Barker
Becoming Attached – Robert Karen
Behave – Robert Sapolsky
Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that will Transform your Sex Life – Emily Nagoski
The Developing Mind - Daniel Siegel
Do What You Love, The Money Will Follow - Marsha Sinetar
Drama of the Gifted Child - Alice Miller
Emotional Intelligence - Daniel Goleman
Family Rules – Kenneth Kaye
Feeling Good – David Burns
Growing Up Again – Jean Clarke and Connie Dawson
Happiest Baby on the Block – Harvey Karp
Happiest Toddler on the Block – Harvey Karp
How Not to Die – Michael Gregor
How to Be An Adult in Relationships - David Richo
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk – Faber & Mazlish
Intimate Partners - Maggie Scarf
Mindset – Carol Dweck
Necessary Losses - Judith Viorst
The Obstacle is the Way – Ryan Holliday
Originals, How Non-Conformists Move the World – Adam Grant
Outliers – The Story of Success – Malcolm Gladwell
The Passionate Marriage – David Schnarch
Power of Habit – Charles Duhigg
Sapiens – Yuval Harari
Social Intelligence – Daniel Goleman
Stealing Fire – Steven Kotler & Jamie Wheal
Tools of Titans – Tim Ferriss
The Two Step: The Dance Towards Intimacy – Eileen McCann
The Verbally Abusive Relationship – Patricia Evans
Why Does He Do That – Lundy Bancroft
The Wisdom of Insecurity - Alan Watts
Mama's Last Hug Animal Emotions and What They Tell Us About Ourselves - Frans de Waal
Podcasts
- Don't Panic: Stories of Coping Amid Chaos
- Guys We Have A Problem: How American Masculinity Creates Lonely Men
- In The Heat of the Moment: How Intense Emotions Transform Us
- 'Man Up': How a Fear of Appearing Feminine Restricts Men and Affects Us All
- Think Fast with Daniel Kahneman author of Thinking Fast and Slow
- What Can a Personality Test Tell Us About Who We Are?
- What Monkeys Can Teach Us About Being Human
- You 2.0: When DId Marriage Become So Hard?I
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TED Radio Hour - Reframing Anger
- TED Talk - Ryan Martin - Why Do We Need Anger?
- TED Talk - Soraya Chemaly - Who's Allowed To Get Angry?
- TED Talk - Russell Kolts - How Can We Use Compassion to Manage Our Anger?
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- How Inuit Parents Teach Kids To Control Their Anger
- Got Anger? Try Naming It To Tame It
- Anger Can Be Contagious - Here's How to Stop the Spread
- From Fruit Fly to Stink Eye: Searching For Anger's Animal Roots
- Disciplining Kids Without Yelling: Readers Tell Us Their Tricks
- Can Inuit Moms Help Me Tame My 3-Year-Old's Anger?
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Talks by Bob D. - Alcoholics Anonymous (YouTube)
- Having an Unmanageable Life, Steps 2 and 3 (Part 2 of 5)
- Forgiveness, Letting go, Resentment, Fear and Love (Part 4 of 5)
- Inner Peace, Wonderful Amends Stories, Helping Others (Part 5 of 5)
- The Matters of Fear and Relationships
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