Books, videos and other resources listed on this page are among many I share with my clients. These reflect a variety of perspectives on a wide array of personal growth and relationship issues for reference only. The content on this page is not intended to be construed as advice but offered as a curated resource for further exploration.  


The School of Life YouTube Channel - Alain de Botton

- Alain de Botton on Love

- Are You Difficult to Love?

- Can People Change?

- Criticism When You've Had a Bad Childhood

Honest Communication

How to be a Friend to Yourself

How to Choose a Partner Wisely
How to Forgive

How to Help Those We Love

How to Remain Calm with People

Overcoming Childhood 

- Why Tiny Things About our Partners Drive us Mad
- Interview with Alain de Botton "On Being" NPR
Being a Good Listener
Be the Change You Want to See

- Eastern Philosophy – The Buddha
- Emotional Translation
- Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)
- Freud on: Sublimation
- Good Enough is Good Enough
- Higher Consciousness
- Honest Communication
- The Horrors of Children

- How Can We Grow Emotionally?

- How Best to Manage Your Moods

- How a Messed Up Childhood Affects You in Adulthood
- How Not to be Angry All the Time

- How Not to be Defensive in Relationships
- How Not to Rant

- How Our Childhoods Affect Our Adult Life

- How Romantic Attachment Works
- How the Right Words Help Us to Feel the Right Things
- How to Argue With Our Partner
- How to Be a Friend to Yourself

- How to Be a Good Listener
- How to Be a Man
- How to Be Selfish
- How to Become a Better Person
- How to Choose a Partner Wisely
- How to Complain

- How to Cope with an Avoidant Partner
- How to Find Meaningful Work
- How to Forgive

- How to Get Angry a Lot
- How to Get Over Rejection
- How to Get Over Someone
- How to Help Those We Love
- How to Keep Growing Up

- How to Know Yourself

- How to Love 

- How to Overcome Trauma
- How to Process Your Emotions
- How to Remain Calm With People

- How to Remain Emotionally Mature in a Crisis

- How to Test Your Emotional Maturity
- How We Lie to Ourselves

- Hypervigilance and How to Overcome It
- An Instruction Manual to Oneself

- Knowing Ourselves Intellectually vs Knowing Ourselves Emotionally
- The Meaning of Life
- On Being Hated
- On Being Out of Touch With One’s Feelings
- On Feeling Depressed
- Overcoming Childhood
- Panic Attacks
- Pessimism for Lovers
- Philosophical Meditation

- Should We Laugh or Should We Cry?

- Status Anxiety

- Transference

- The Challenges of the Anxious-Avoidant Relationship

The Challenge of Being Close

- The Dangers of Loving or Hating Too Much

- The Eight Rules of the School of Life

- The Hardest Person in the World to Break Up With

- The Importance of Vulnerability

- The One Subject You Really Need to Study: Your Own Childhood

- The Problem of Shame

- The Problem With Perfectionism
- The Purpose of Friendship
- The Sanity of Madnes

- The Course of Love - Alain de Botton
- The Weakness of Strength

- The Wisdom of Animals

- Twenty Signs That You are Emotionally Mature

- What is An Emotionally-Healthy Childhood?
- What is Narcissism?

- What is Your Attachment Style?
- What It’s Like Inside Our Minds

- Who We Can Love

- Why Avoidant and Anxious Partners Find it Hard to Split Up

- Why Are We So Easily Triggered?
- Why Humanity Destroyed Itself
- Why Introspection Matters

- Why Love is Never As Nice As It Should Be

- Why None of Us Can Escape Catastrophe
- Why Our Partners Drive Us Mad
- Why Socrates Hated Democracy
- Why Tiny Things About Our Partners Drive Us Mad

- Why Touch Means So Much in Love
- Why We Are All Addicts- Why We’re All So Anxious

- Why We Are Mean to Those We Love
- Why We Eat Too Much
- Why We Only Learn What We Repeat

- Why We Pick Difficult Partners
- Why We Should Treat Our Partners Like Small Children
- Why We Sulk and How Not To
- Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person
- Why You Shouldn’t Trust Your Feelings
- Wisdom

Articles / Videos

- The 5 Qualities of Emotionally Mature People - Niklas Goke

- Alain de Botton on What Makes a Good Communicator and the Difficult Art of Listening in Intimate Relationships - Maria Popova

- Psychotherapy (Defenses) - Anna Freud

- Psychotherapy (Relationships) – John Bowlby

- Psychotherapy (Ambivalence) – Melanie Klein

- Psychotherapy (Parenting) – Donald Winnicott



5 Things We Cannot Change & the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them – David Richo

7 Principles for Making Marriage Work - John Gottman

Barking Up the Wrong Tree – Eric Barker

Becoming Attached – Robert Karen

Behave – Robert Sapolsky

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that will Transform your Sex Life – Emily Nagoski

The Developing Mind - Daniel Siegel

Do What You Love, The Money Will Follow - Marsha Sinetar

Drama of the Gifted Child - Alice Miller

Emotional Intelligence - Daniel Goleman

Family Rules – Kenneth Kaye

Feeling Good – David Burns

Growing Up Again – Jean Clarke and Connie Dawson

Happiest Baby on the Block Harvey Karp

Happiest Toddler on the Block – Harvey Karp

How Not to Die – Michael Gregor

How to Be An Adult in Relationships - David Richo

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk – Faber & Mazlish

Intimate Partners - Maggie Scarf

Mindset – Carol Dweck

Necessary Losses - Judith Viorst

The Obstacle is the Way – Ryan Holliday

Originals, How Non-Conformists Move the World – Adam Grant

Outliers – The Story of Success – Malcolm Gladwell

The Passionate Marriage – David Schnarch

Power of Habit Charles Duhigg

Sapiens – Yuval Harari

Social Intelligence – Daniel Goleman

Stealing Fire – Steven Kotler & Jamie Wheal

Tools of Titans – Tim Ferriss

The Two Step: The Dance Towards Intimacy – Eileen McCann

The Verbally Abusive Relationship – Patricia Evans

Why Does He Do That – Lundy Bancroft

The Wisdom of Insecurity - Alan Watts

Mama's Last Hug Animal Emotions and What They Tell Us About OurselvesFrans de Waal



Hidden Brain - NPR

- Don't Panic: Stories of Coping Amid Chaos

- Guys We Have A Problem: How American Masculinity Creates Lonely Men

- I'm Right, You're Wrong

- In The Heat of the Moment: How Intense Emotions Transform Us

- Liar, Liar

- 'Man Up': How a Fear of Appearing Feminine Restricts Men and Affects Us All

- The Ostrich Effect

- The Science of Compassion

- Think Fast with Daniel Kahneman author of Thinking Fast and Slow

- What Can a Personality Test Tell Us About Who We Are?

What Monkeys Can Teach Us About Being Human

- You 2.0: The Empathy Gym

- You 2.0: When DId Marriage Become So Hard?I

TED Radio Hour - Reframing Anger

- TED Talk - Ryan Martin - Why Do We Need Anger?

- TED Talk - Soraya Chemaly - Who's Allowed To Get Angry?

- TED Talk - Russell Kolts - How Can We Use Compassion to Manage Our Anger?

The Other Side of Anger - NPR

- How Inuit Parents Teach Kids To Control Their Anger

- Got Anger? Try Naming It To Tame It

- Anger Can Be Contagious - Here's How to Stop the Spread

- From Fruit Fly to Stink Eye: Searching For Anger's Animal Roots

- Disciplining Kids Without Yelling: Readers Tell Us Their Tricks

- Can Inuit Moms Help Me Tame My 3-Year-Old's Anger?

Talks by Bob D. - Alcoholics Anonymous (YouTube)

- Having an Unmanageable Life, Steps 2 and 3 (Part 2 of 5)

- Forgiveness, Letting go, Resentment, Fear and Love (Part 4 of 5)

- Inner Peace, Wonderful Amends Stories, Helping Others (Part 5 of 5)

- Dealing with Resentment

- Surrender

- The Matters of Fear and Relationships

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