When we are with someone who is losing their temper over and over, we often feel conflicted about what to do. We talk to them and plead with them. We threaten them. And when none of that works, we feel pretty helpless.
It's important to remember that to remove someone from a living situation because of the way they express anger is different than removing them from our heart.
When someone is losing their temper it can be annoying and irritating when they are being sarcastic. It can even be hurtful when they are yelling or being aggressive; or intimidating; or throwing things; or hitting things.
After repeated instances of these behaviors and a refusal to get help, it may be necessary for the person who is being aggressive and intimidating to leave for an hour, or a day, or longer, in order for everyone to calm down and begin to heal.
As difficult as this sounds, it can be done with love, even if the person doesn't agree or understand why this needs to be done. The person asking for this, or under extreme circumstances making this happen, can do this out of love rather than hate or anger.
Strategic tools for managing anger in relationships is something that we teach in our groups and individual counseling sessions. If you'd like to learn more, reach out.